How online dating works at Velvet Haven
Velvet Haven is an inclusive 18+ online dating site and dating and social community for adults across orientations and identities. This guide explains what membership involves, how members connect, and how to date online more safely.
How members connect
Approved, identity-verified members browse other approved members and choose who to send interest to. Conversations happen in member messaging, supported by safety scanning, reporting and staff moderation. You stay in control of who you reach out to.
Online dating platform or matchmaking service?
If you are comparing online matchmaking sites, it helps to know what Velvet Haven is and is not. We are a self-directed online dating platform: there is no personal matchmaker and no automated matching, and we do not promise matches or outcomes. What we add is a reviewed, verified adult community so the people you meet have been through the same application and ID checks you have.
What joining involves
- A completed membership application and a profile photo.
- Independent government-ID age and identity verification confirming you are 18 or older.
- Review by our team. Approval is not guaranteed.
- If approved, a $25/month recurring membership you can cancel anytime.
Tips for safer online dating
- Keep early conversations inside Velvet Haven until you feel comfortable, and never share financial details.
- Meet for the first time in a public place and tell a friend where you are going.
- Verification confirms age and identity; it does not guarantee anyone's conduct, so trust your judgement.
- Use block and report at any time. Blocking takes effect immediately, and reports go privately to our staff.